Pastor Peter Nembhard shares his views on why we need more men in the Church, and the steps churches can take to encourage men to follow Jesus
A FEW GOOD MEN
Much has been made about the ‘Men Problem’ in society. You can hear about it on Oprah; read about it in TIME magazine, and watch the destruction it creates with Dr Phil. School teachers can barely educate because of this issue; Social Services are inundated because of it; the Police feel the brunt of it; many prisons are full because of it; politicians don’t know what to do about it, and women are stressed out by it.
The issue of the lack of good men is having an effect in the Church in a major way. During my time as a church leader, there have been many times when the topic about the lack of men in church has arisen, but is then suppressed, disappears and resurfaces again. However, it would not be far-fetched to say that our churches are not reaching men, or getting men involved in ministry at a high enough rate.
THE NEED FOR MEN IN OUR CHURCHES
The Church needs men. Our Christian ladies need men, and our children need men. I pastor a church where we have a lot of young people, and more than 70% of them do not have a father who is born again and, furthermore, who is actively fathering them. We have a fatherless generation, many of whom struggle with the concept of love because they feel hate for their fathers.
I have personally seen a lot of Black beautiful women grow up in church, waiting for a Christian Black man to come along, only to be left disappointed, frustrated and sometimes very angry when they don’t.
THE DIFFERENCE MEN MAKE
When men get saved, it is quite logical that their family will follow and, if they are not married but have children, are likely to be reconciled to them and treat the mother of their children better. And if they get radically saved, they’ll be role models, mentors and fathers to young people, and become leaders, preachers, teachers and play a major role in God’s army.
GETTING MEN INVOLVED
Men’s ministry must be one of the most challenging departments in the church. If we are going to involve men, churches can’t do the ‘soft touch’ approach to ministry; we must create adventure and excitement, and play hard. I believe it’s time for churches to direct some of their resources into Men’s Ministry.
To reach men, we must do so beyond church meetings; get away from a whole lot of talk and chat, and connect with them in their everyday lives. Men don’t like too much talk; they like action, and it’s at an action-orientated event that we can reach men with the Gospel and teach them God’s Word.
I have been greatly helped in my approach to Men’s ministry by two books: ‘Wild at Heart’ by John Eldredge and ‘Why men hate going to church’ by David Murrow. The latter book helped me to create a church décor more inviting to men, and also empowered me to change my preaching style to appeal to both men and women.
We need to get men involved in our churches: teaching the children; singing in the praise and worship team; serving as ushers; mentoring the youth and other men. It’s not an impossible goal to achieve.
THE IMPACT OF MEN IN CHURCH
Malachi 4:6, the last verse of the Old Testament, should be regularly prayed as a precursor to revival.
Whilst the men from the Windrush Generation are slowing down and dying out, and the pioneers of UK Black churches are declining, there is a ‘Changing of The Guard’. What is going to be the face of the Church in the next 30 years? If we want it to be different, there has to be a focus on reaching men, and developing more effective ministry to men. Having more men praying and interceding is the answer to the last day revival.
If you are a man reading this article, join the intercessory team at your church, or start a Men’s ministry intercession team that begins by praying for your pastor and leaders and for men.
We need men on the frontline in the last days. It’s time for the Black men to stand up and be counted; to be men of God, who aren’t motivated by money or women, but rather by a desire to be like Jesus. Our community needs men who are husbands of integrity, and loving fathers who take responsibility for their homes and encourage their children to pray.
Every church needs a man who will have the heart of his pastor; the heart for reaching and discipling men, and a man who won’t quit but leads Men’s ministry at his church. I have such a man at my church, thank God! But be prepared to work closely with the pastor at the church for it to work effectively.
Pastor Peter Nembhard is a Pastor and Evangelist who loves God, people and himself. Peter has been married to Carris for 24 years, and has four children. He serves as the Senior Pastor of ARC in East London. Visit www.arc4u.org.uk for more details.