Readers’ Letters

Yes, let’s celebrate men

I loved the recent edition of Keep The Faith’s (Issue 73) focus on men, particularly the articles: “Note to fathers: Your child needs you”, “Let’s celebrate men” and “Father to the fatherless”. It was good to be reminded of the important role men can and do play in our society, and to celebrate their accomplishments. There’s too much male-bashing in our society, so it was refreshing to read about the positive contribution that men make.

Angela Marks, London

We must embrace God’s view on marriage

I was somewhat bemused by Rev Wale Hudson-Robert’s article about same-sex marriage, particularly his comments that, whilst he does not agree with same-sex marriage, he is concerned that any change in the law to allow same-sex marriage does not backfire and increase inequality and homophobia. What on earth is he talking about? Doesn’t Rev Hudson-Roberts recognise that we live in a society where every attempt is being made to quell the Christian voice, and if there is any group being treated unequally, it is those that hold to biblically-based views about life, relationships and marriage? And whilst I agree with his statement, that Christians are called to love others, it’s also imperative that Christians love God’s truth and standards, and when I read my Bible, I do not see His Word supporting same-sex marriage anywhere.

Hazel Edwards, West Midlands

Churches cater for women too much

I have also surveyed some men about their church-going habits. I found that the sentiments about church lasting too long were common for men here in America as well. Too many pastors are catering to women. They are catering to women by making church to be more about your emotional connection to God; about learning God’s Word, and how to live by it. I find too many people who are crying in church, but are trifling outside of church. Makes me sick. I don’t need the fire and brimstone, whooping and hollering. I just need this here Scripture, broken down so it can resonate in my spirit, so I can embrace it, so I can live by it, so I can be an example of a good Christian, so I can encourage other Christians to live by it as well.

S Dixon, Keep The Faith website

Article on men was provocative

Thanks for a good article, Tony. We know that the absence of ‘men’ in church, and not just being present but ‘active’, is a concern that many are mindful of (particularly some of the sisters looking for husbands – yes, I did just say that!). I liked the way you opened up with a picture of what your ‘mission’ was, before talking through some of your findings. What followed were real-life accounts that give an insight into the questions keeping Black men from attending church on Sundays. A well-written, provocative and insightful piece. And by the way, you had me sat salivating in the takeaway with you! Mine was a curry goat and rice…

Nicholas Ferguson, Keep The Faith website

Men have issues with male authority

Keep The Faith received a large volume of comments about Tony Tomlin’s article in Issue 73, which explored the reasons why men don’t attend church. Here are some of them…


Personally, I feel this issue has a few variables. First of all, nowadays we have a generation of men who have never been led by men. A lot of them have been raised in homes led by single women. This alone makes it hard for a lot of men to come and sit under and submit to another man (eg. pastor). Also, I think if more pastors talk and preach on issues that are relative/relevant, the men will come. If we come out of this ‘euphoric, spiritual utopia’ we are constantly in, and bring it down to functional, usable information that will lead men to see a positive result in their lives, they will come. It is vital that pastors present the Gospel in a way that is provocative and challenging to men, otherwise the issue of the imbalanced gender numbers in our churches will continue to grow.

RJB, Keep The Faith website

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