Pastor and teacher, Dr Antonio Christopher, shares the range of reasons why Christians should aim to save sex for marriage
Premarital sex involves any kind of sexual contact prior to entering into a legal marriage relationship. When I say any, I mean exactly that. This includes all types of sexual stimulation, sexual foreplay, and all types of sexual simulation. Basically, anything that leads up to the act of sex can be considered as premarital sex.
There are a several reasons why God’s wisdom says sex is for marriage. God designed sex to be enjoyed within the confines of marriage, and this is its true purpose. To remove it from that context is to pervert its use and severely handicap its fulfilling enjoyment. Myles Munroe often says, “Where purpose is not known, abuse is inevitable.” Not only have we abused God’s gift, we have also fallen into the realm of perversion which basically means a moving away from God’s original intent. It is God Himself who sanctioned the “one flesh” clause in a relationship. Genesis 2:24 tells us that a man will leave his family, join to his wife, and become “one flesh” with her. This same notion is also conveyed within the New Testament in Matthew 19:5 and Mark 10:7.
“God designed sex to be enjoyed within the confines of marriage, and this is its true purpose.”
We are living in a highly sexualised society; it is literally saturated with promiscuity and extremely loose standards. The Media, commercials and advertising giants have realised that sex is a money generator and, therefore, good for their bank accounts. They depend heavily upon sexually-charged images to sell and advertise their products in almost every capacity. This ranges from selling cars, movies, alcohol, vacations and cigarettes. Everything and anything is fair game to become over-sexualised. They understand their market, their clients, and mankind’s basic underlying instinct to react and respond to sexual images and stimuli. They peddle their services and goods by using images that will captivate and seize the thoughts, minds and the attention of the consumer, especially males.
Let us consider some of the reasons why it is better to wait until marriage, before we engage in any and all sexual activity.
- Abstinence is the only way that one is guaranteed absolute protection against the many STDs (sexually-transmitted diseases) that are currently running rampant in our society. In my opinion, it is very irresponsible for any school to arbitrarily hand out condoms to students in schools, ‘just in case’ they have sex. It is the handing out of these condoms that sends a very dangerous message that “if you do have sex, then wear these.” The problem with this nonchalant attitude is that condoms do not and cannot guarantee you 100% protection from STDs.
- Syphilis, gonorrhea, chlamydia, thrush, AIDS, HIV, genital warts, herpes, hepatitis B, and many other sexually-transmitted diseases are fast becoming very resistant to the drugs designed to treat them. These are all very real and horrible diseases that God would like to protect us from. Waiting until you are married, and staying true to your partner, will prevent you from the terrible alternative. “Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the Kingdom of God? Be not deceived; neither FORNICATORS, nor idolators, nor ADULTERERS, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind, nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners shall inherit the Kingdom of God.” (1 Corinthians 6:9–10)
- Sexual activity among young people affects their psychological and emotional make up. It also has a profound effect upon their development academically and socially. Have you ever noticed the emotional upheavals a young boy or girl has while trying to study at school? Sexual entanglements affect the way they study and the results they receive on their tests. Why is this? Well, the adolescent mind is not mentally mature enough, equipped or prepared to handle the physical and emotional attachments that come with such a powerful emotional tie at such a young age. There have been some studies that seem to suggest that, when young students are sexually involved with one another, their studies take a sudden nosedive. Could this be a reason why there are just so many unwanted babies, teenage pregnancies and unwed mothers? How much longer should we stand by and witness the deterioration of our society and communities in this regard? Are there lessons that we can learn from God’s Word? Absolutely!
- Premarital sex is like playing Russian roulette: no matter how much protection you wear, ingest or administer, you will always run the risk of becoming pregnant or of impregnating a girl, producing illegitimate children. Children need the love and protection of both mother and father. Most young boys, on learning that the girl is pregnant, usually try to push for an abortion, which further compounds the sin, or just become absentee fathers, realising that they were just not ready for a child.
The Bible’s message on sex before marriage is absolute and very clear. If its principles were to be adhered to and practised, there would not be as many sexually-transmitted diseases, abortions, unwed mothers and fatherless children. What we are witnessing today is the result of trying to replace God’s wisdom in this regard with that of man’s politically correct message in a ‘do-as-you-feel society’.
Dr A E Christopher runs Rightly Dividing the Word Ministries, and is senior pastor of Alpha & Omega Christian Fellowship. Dr Christopher has a series of CDs/DVDs for sale entitled ‘SEX: God’s Intention vs Satan’s Perversion & Lies’ (£19.99). Email firstname.lastname@example.org or phone 07824 511038 for more details.