If you’re in your 20’s like myself, you may have noticed this year (and last year) that everyone my age decided they were going to get married. We were just completely blindsided. Rings and bearded men on one knee just filled my timeline, in addition to lovely heartfelt captions of love! Heck, even I got engaged….. Wedding season is upon us people!
Nevertheless, its such joy to see young Christians taking marriage seriously. It has and will always be important to God, after all marriage is God’s idea.
Genesis 2:22-24, Then the LORD God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man. The man said, “This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called ‘woman,’ for she was taken out of man.” That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.
With all this going on, my thoughts turned to a scenario that occurred a few years ago.
I was in a Tesco metro store in south London needing to buy a beverage. On my way to the drinks isle I walked past the local noticeboard where event flyers would be advertised by local event organisers to let locals know what was going on in the area.
And there it was. This flyer advertising a church event with the title “Singleness must die!” The event was targeted to singles who needed to pray out this curse of singleness on their lives. I quickly took a snap of this and consequently sent it to my guys on our Whatsapp group (as you do)…. After the laughs we then began to discuss the apparent curse of singleness.
I’m guessing that Apostle Paul needed to go to this conference had he still been alive. Oh and Jeremiah…. Even Jesus!?
I hope you can sense the sarcasm as you read.
Although many of us may of course agree that singleness is not a curse, subconsciously we can see it as a detriment.
Even in the body of Christ, we have made marriage to resemble a sort of promise land, a holy grail of some sort and if you’re not there yet there’s a problem. Even in certain cultures, if you’re not married by a certain age people become genuinely worried!
But why!? So when Apostle Paul explains that it would be better to remain single (1 Corinthians 7:40) should this be ignored? Paul explains (1 Corinthians 7:32-40) that singleness is great time to be fully and completely devoted to God. The single person does not have the responsibility of caring for a spouse. An unmarried man/woman can spend their time doing the Lord’s work and thinking how to please Him. The single life is a beautiful thing if we change our perspective on it.
The bible does not state that marriage brings fullness of joy but in God’s presence is where that fullness of joy is found (Psalm 16:11). Many have been brainwashed into the hazardous thinking that true joy and completeness is found at a wedding. And frankly this is a lie that needs correcting. Marriage is beautiful. And so is singleness.