The Curse of Singleness. By Owanari Briggs

If you’re in your 20’s like myself, you may have noticed this year (and last year) that everyone my age decided they were going to get married. We were just completely blindsided. Rings and bearded men on one knee just filled my timeline, in addition to lovely heartfelt captions of love! Heck, even I got engaged….. Wedding season is upon us people!

 

Nevertheless, its such joy to see young Christians taking marriage seriously. It has and will always be important to God, after all marriage is God’s idea.

 

Genesis 2:22-24, Then the LORD God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man. The man said, “This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called ‘woman,’ for she was taken out of man.” That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.

With all this going on, my thoughts turned to a scenario that occurred a few years ago.

 

I was in a Tesco metro store in south London needing to buy a beverage. On my way to the drinks isle I walked past the local noticeboard where event flyers would be advertised by local event organisers to let locals know what was going on in the area.

And there it was. This flyer advertising a church event with the title “Singleness must die!” The event was targeted to singles who needed to pray out this curse of singleness on their lives. I quickly took a snap of this and consequently sent it to my guys on our Whatsapp group (as you do)…. After the laughs we then began to discuss the apparent curse of singleness.

I’m guessing that Apostle Paul needed to go to this conference had he still been alive. Oh and Jeremiah…. Even Jesus!?

I hope you can sense the sarcasm as you read.

 

Although many of us may of course agree that singleness is not a curse, subconsciously we can see it as a detriment.

Even in the body of Christ, we have made marriage to resemble a sort of promise land, a holy grail of some sort and if you’re not there yet there’s a problem. Even in certain cultures, if you’re not married by a certain age people become genuinely worried!

But why!? So when Apostle Paul explains that it would be better to remain single (1 Corinthians 7:40) should this be ignored? Paul explains (1 Corinthians 7:32-40) that singleness is great time to be fully and completely devoted to God. The single person does not have the responsibility of caring for a spouse. An unmarried man/woman can spend their time doing the Lord’s work and thinking how to please Him. The single life is a beautiful thing if we change our perspective on it.

The bible does not state that marriage brings fullness of joy but in God’s presence is where that fullness of joy is found (Psalm 16:11). Many have been brainwashed into the hazardous thinking that true joy and completeness is found at a wedding. And frankly this is a lie that needs correcting. Marriage is beautiful. And so is singleness.

Owanari Briggs

3 thoughts on “The Curse of Singleness. By Owanari Briggs

  • 29th June 2016 at 1:00 pm
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    Well for a Good man like me that Should Have been married with a Good Wife And Family which i Definitely Consider that being Single is a real Curse for me when Millions of other men and women today have that Gift Of Life. And why do i have to spend my Life All Alone which Doesn’t make any sense at all to begin with? Really Sucks to be all Alone which i am sure many others will Agree with me as well. Billions of people on this Earth which you would really think that the Odds of finding Love would Definitely be in our Favor just like our family members had it since it came very Easy for them years ago which is why many of us are here today thanks to them.

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  • 17th August 2023 at 2:28 pm
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    Most of my suffering in unwanted singleness comes from caring too much about what certain Christians think of me. God’s approval SHOULD be enough.
    I need to focus on His mercies and blessings. Not what He has denied me. I don’t know why He has denied me a family of my own. I probably never will this side of eternity.
    Sometimes I just can’t quit crying. At this point I don’t even care if I marry since I’m old and have been made to spend my best years alone. I will never have children or experience romantic love, or a life shared with another human being. (Most of my life is over. And I lack the capacity for pleasure, spontaneity or romance that I had at twenty.) I’m not dead but my body is falling apart.
    It’s so disappointing. I try to believe, but I do not see how God can ever make this right. Not even in eternity. But what do I know? That’s where faith comes in.
    At least this constant pain and endless weeping will end in the next life. That’s all I ask from God at this point. The disability responsible for my singleness only adds to the misery.
    Having tasted the loneliness and frustration of celibacy in this life I do not understand how Heaven can be filled with joy. Since we’ll all be forced into celibacy throughout eternity. Funny how the married Christians who boast about their happiness don’t realize they’ll wind up single too in the afterlife. I guess we’ll just be free of desire and no longer want love or connection. Not just physically neutered like house pets. Eternally aloof and remote on an emotional level.
    Because marriage/family is the basis for friendships and community. Ergo those likely won’t exist in Heaven either.

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  • 29th November 2023 at 11:21 pm
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    If God wasn’t a filthy rotten evil low life loser scumbag which then many of us guys wouldn’t be single today at all, and the kind of very horrible evil rotten women that God created these days certainly made it worse altogether for many of us single guys very seriously looking for love now as i speak. Not our fault at all.

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