It’s important as women that we’re powerful allies for one another. If we pray for one another, work together, and take time away from the noise and just have fun, we can achieve great things.
The older I get, the more passionate I become about the importance of women collaborating and helping each other.
I have been presenting my radio show for four years this year. I speak to women on a regular basis who relay their stories of going through the different seasons of life: some are married and frustrated – conversely, others are single and lonely; the married women feel the pressure to pretend that everything is rosy, and the unmarried folk are under pressure to pretend that they’re on top of the world and enjoying life till that special brother comes along.
So many amazing daughters of Zion, discouraged and pretending not to be. Women unhappy, because their husbands don’t understand them, or unfulfilled in their careers. Or, let’s be honest, they’re just plain tired. In celebrating who we are as women, we need to be comfortable saying “No, actually I’m not OK right now.” Marriage can be tough. Being a mum can be exhausting. And just being a woman can sometimes feel like you drew the short straw.
Except… we didn’t! When we collaborate, talk and open up – which is something women are very good at – we realise that we’re all on a journey to greatness. None of us have it all together; we’re just trying to figure out life in Christ, one day at a time.
As women of God, our self-esteem lies in the immense value our Creator has placed upon and within us. Self-esteem isn’t derived from our relationship with a man. It isn’t found in raising children successfully, neither is it the by-product of an amazing career. As Kingdom women, we can tap into something supernatural that is much bigger than ourselves: a heavenly Father who gives us unlimited power and hope for the future.
A God who can place us within a sisterhood of other women, with whom we can be transparent. A girlfriend we can open our hearts to and say: “I am struggling. I am a beautiful jar of clay that feels like it’s been broken one too many times. Please pray for me.” Or, “ I have this brilliant business idea, but no capacity. Could I share it with you?”
Women collaborating is not a new concept. Paul the Apostle sent a letter to a young pastor named Titus, whose remit was to help the young church grow in maturity.
Titus 2:1-7 says: “You, however, must teach what is appropriate to sound doctrine. Teach the older men to be temperate, worthy of respect, self-controlled, and sound in faith, in love and in endurance.
“Likewise, teach the older women to be reverent in the way they live, not to be slanderers or addicted to much wine, but to teach what is good. Then they can urge the younger women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the Word of God.”
Paul’s advice to Titus is as relevant today as it was then.
No matter where life has taken you, you have been through joy and pain, which means, whether young or old, you have something to share, and there’s always another sister in the faith who needs you. In spite of what you have been through, you still love Jesus. You haven’t become bitter and turned your back on the faith. That means, no matter who you are or where you are right now, you have been called to minister to someone who may need your help.
Be bold and reach out. Greatness resides on the inside of you.
Love God, love life, love people