“Ethan has completed our family”

Adoption has brought families together through the ages. Unfortunately, often children from BAME backgrounds wait longer than other children to find adoptive families in London. But what’s it really like adopting a child into your family? 

Veronica and David adopted their son Ethan through Coram two years ago, when he was 15 months old. As black adoptive parents, they felt it was important to adopt a child of African or Caribbean descent so they could understand and promote their son’s cultural heritage as he grows up.  

Veronica says: “Adopting a black child was important to us. We feel very comfortable to teach our son about his heritage and are best placed to support him with any challenges and issues. 

“We need to dispel myths around adoption” 

In our culture there tends to be a focus on getting married and having children and if any issues come up with this, adoption isn’t something that’s always considered. I think we need to dispel myths around adoption. There are children who need a home and there are regular people out there ready to adopt. I think that’s something that everyone in our communities could resonate with. 

David says: “We went along to Coram’s open event and what struck us was how honest they were. I suppose I had an old-fashioned view of what adoption was about and Coram was realistic about what these children have been through.”

Support along the adoption journey – and beyond 

The couple said that Coram’s approach and training were very thorough and they felt prepared at every stage.  

Whilst they haven’t accessed any post-adoption support yet, Veronica and David know there’s a range of support there if they need it. They have also kept in touch with other parents who adopted at Coram at a similar time, who have become part of their support network.  

Veronica says:  

“Ethan has completed our family and it’s about letting others know that they can have this experience too.” 

To find out more, call Coram Ambitious for Adoption on: 020 7520 0383, email adoption@coram.org.uk, or why not join the next adoption open evening – details at coramadoption.org.uk

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